Finally back at it!

I know its been a bit since I have posted any blogs. I apologize, but Tiff is back & boy do I have a lot to blog about =)

So much has been going on in my world and much of it I am ready to spill about =)

I feel as though I need some mental cleansing, and this site is the perfect place for that! 

So happy to be back!!

xoxo 

Stalker Alert

Ugh.. I am so tired of dating psychos.. lol
Here's a funny little story for you guys...

So about a few days ago I went on a date with this guy I have known for a while now. He was always a good friend.. and a sweetheart.. so I figured "whats the harm?" I really should have re-thought that statement before hand.

The date went well, as I knew it would. We ended the night with a small peck and a "I'll call you." At that moment I didn't realize how literal he was when he said he would call. About 30 mins later I received my first call.

Call #1
Stalker: "Hey I just wanted to make sure you were able to open you door and get into your house ok"

Me: :: raised eyebrow:: "Umm.. yea.. i got in just fine.. thanks for calling.."

Stalker: "Wait.. before you go.. can I ask you a serious ?"

Me: " Sure.. just make it quick.. I want to jump into the shower"

Stalker: "Well, do you think you could fall in love with a guy like me? I mean.. I know its the first date.. but if this is how it feels to be with you.. then the sex should be good too"

Me: "Are you fucking kidding me? I think that this convo is over now.. Please do not call me anymore you fucking weirdo.."

:: CLICK ::

Now, he has still called me since that date about twice a day. I also have about 15 messages saved with him professing his love.. blah blah blah..

Can someone please explain to me why guys have to take it there? I know this isn't a typical move.. so is something wrong with homie or is he just that comfortable with me? I dont know this answer, nor do I care to find out. All I know is that he needs to re evaluate his approach.

Where are all the nice normal boys? lol I'm just saying! Can't a girl get normal these days.. I dont want a nut job.. a bad boy.. a stalker nor a punk.. Just someone who is going to think I'm amazing. Even when the makeup is smeared.. and the hair isn't looking too hott. lol

Weekly Quotes =)

The evil of the world is made possible by nothing but the sanction you give it.

--Ayn Rand


It is easier to get forgiveness than to get permission.

The other woman... friend or enemy?

I have come face to face with this type of uncomfortable situation. Dealing with the "other woman" is never an easy task, but someone has to do it.

In my past relationship, infidelities played a major role. Whether it be a drunken night, an ex girl friend, or an old high school fling, I was always left to play investigator. Many a night I would sit and think to myself.. "Is this stress worth it?"

I've come to learn now that the stress is never worth it. As women, we want to attack the other female. As though there is some type of unwritten code which she's broken. Hardly ever do we retaliate toward the individual, who amongst all, is the person who owes you explanations as well as honesty.

This reality played in my mind, and I got to thinking. Is the other woman my enemy after all? Did she save me? Should I be thanking her instead of slashing her tires.. and writing her threatening emails? The answer came to me as clear as day.

Men will go as far as you allow them. I am, in no way, stating that I deserved each discretion on his behalf. I am stating that maybe this "other woman" did me a favor. If she believes she has what it takes to change him, god bless her. In reality, we all know how her story will end.
Much like mine.
She will be fighting the same battle, inevitably losing the war.

The Other Woman.. My Very Silly Friend.. =)

Weekly Quote

"Should have known you'd bring me heart ache.. Almost lovers always do"

&

"I can not wake up in the morning without you on my mind.
You're gone and I'm haunted..
but I'm sure you are just fine.
Did I make it that easy..
To walk in and out of my life.."


I know, a little deep this time around.
Do not worry..
I wont be jumping off any roof tops. I swear!
lmao!

Drunk Karaoke w/ the Roomie

sooooo, we were drunk right.. and wanted to sing!
Some of the tracks we DESTROYED were..
The Boy Is Mine (roomie duet)
Step In the Name of Love
Barbie Girl (oh yea.. we went there)
Etc..

I have to state this..
I love Drunk Karaoke!
lmao!
Henny & Coke will give you the courage you never thought you had.. lmao!

Ladies Night

Ladies night at the strip club... Big shout out to Suzies! lol

As always.. It was a blast with the ladies.
Huggies-Myself-BooBoo-Meli Mel

There were more pics.. but I'm trying to keep it PG rated here people.. so enjoy this one.. and allow your imagination to run wild.. lol

I love my girls =)~

My Little Cutie Pie

Isn't she just precious? lol

Strength

"Love comes in un-natural forms.. And leaves abruptly.. without any reason or cause."

I am a firm believer that when it comes to the topic of love, you must always handle with care. As a single & intelligent woman I have come to the realization that it is ok so walk away from love or the one you love.

Is it better to cry for the one you love, or cry because of the one you love? Would you rather suffer with the person you love, or love yourself enough to walk away and be better off alone? I'm sure many females face this question on a daily basis.

For some time now, I have been suffering for the one that I love. I always put myself second to their needs, because I felt that was the right thing to do. Today, I know better. I love myself before any man and I remind myself daily that one day I will be happy. As of now, I fulfill my own needs. I worry about me, and only me. As much as it pains me to walk away, I am certain that I must move on. Sometimes, its best to cry because it's over, than cry because you wish it were.

" I've cried with you.. I've cried without you.. I understand that you're not for me.. and Now I cry for you.. "

The Check List: Is Your Family Nuts?

Coming from a traditional Hispanic family, I have encountered some not so normal behavior. I'm sure I speak for many Spanish families when I say we are some crazy people.. so beware.

I have gathered a few not to realistic scenarios for you to cross reference. Enjoy!

Please do not take this offensively.. it's all fun and games!!!


Is Your Family Nuts?

1. If your aunt and uncle are fighting over the same man.. they're nuts.. lol
2. If Abuelo always talks about the hot little 20 yr old next door.. he's nuts.. he needs to worry about his dentures!
3. When a child's birthday party is yet another excuse for all the adults to get drunk.. they're all nuts.
4. All your young little female cousins start turning out to be pregnant.. they're nuts!
5. Your mother wears your clothes & chills with your friends.. (def a Spanish habit) shes nuts!
6. You have a 2 bedroom apartment with Juan.. Maria.. Pedro.. Marisol.. Carmen.. Jesus.. Miguel.. and Ana all living in there.. they're nuts!
7. Lastly, All the furniture in Abuelas house is still covered in plastic.. she's nuts.. and needs an upgrade! ( i love my grandma!)

lmao.. I hope you enjoyed.. I know I enjoyed typing it..

xoxo you know you love me! =)

New York New York!

New York living is life in the fast lane, that goes without saying. But it seems to be dating in the fast lane, eating in the fast food restaurants and sleeping in the not so quiet neighborhoods.
I have been battling with the urges of leaving my home here in New York and going back to Florida. Sometimes it just seems as though New York is too much for me to handle. It could be that I have so much history here that i feel as though i can't hide from it. New York is known as the city which never sleeps. Guess what, I like to sleep. Lol.. So maybe we just don't fit anymore, me and New York that is..

I cant help but feel that I would be leaving so much of myself behind though. I have my love here, my family, my life. Although the city that never sleeps leaves me with bags under my eyes, broken hearted at times, and in desperate need of a shot of something toxic, I'm simply not ready to leave here.

I love New York.. I am New York..

Melanie Fiona

Give It To Me Right



Ready For Love


Somebody Come Get Me_Freestly



She's been on tour with Kanye & I was just recently exposed to her. I was impressed. Its rare to find a pretty girl who can sing the ish out of a song with no help from technology.

She's one of my new favs!

Especially lovin' the freestyle she did.. I couldn't of said it better myself! lmao

Lions, Tigers & Bears - Jazmin Sullivan

I have to admit.. this song struck a nerve..
I'm sure its exactly how 087037503758370 females out there are feelings. lol

Enjoy! xoxo

Fairty Tales or Real Life?

A very good friend of mine posted a blog discussing the importance of commitment. Now, knowing her, she's a hopeless romantic and that's one thing I love about her. She wants the prince charming, the glass slipper & the castle in the sky, and she deserves all of those things. As well you I do, and any other good woman. But, I can't help but think to myself, are we as women being realistic is what we want?

Men have a hard enough time being themselves, imaging playing prince charming? That's a lot of weight on one persons shoulders. Women are very emotional creatures so we want men to listen, and be "understanding". Men on the other hand are very simple. They know what they want (for the most part) and that's what they go by.

So my question is, are we wasting too much time trying to mold the man into who we want him to be, or are we appreciating him for who he is.. stained shirts & holes in the socks..

In my opinion ladies, we can't have it all. Therefore we need to cut the list of requirements short. If you have a good man who loves you and is attentive, appreciate him. Those are like 4 leaf clovers.. rare to find. Most of the time we throw away a good thing because we pick at these men all day long.

Maybe I'm just not as romantic or demanding. I appreciate the small things. A morning phone call, a kiss to the forehead, the slight holding of hands during a movie, the random "I love you" during an episode of Sex & The City, but most of all the company of a good man.

SNL - Jizzed In My Pants

SNL had me almost spit up my soda when I seen this one!!
I love TV.. I swear!

Enjoy Pervs! lol

I am.. Sasha Fierce

Scared Of Lonely




Sweet Dream

Me..Myself & I..

I used to believe that you had nothing if you didn't have friends or a significant other to share your life with. Let me just state that my outlook on that has changed drastically.
I hate to sound cliché but Since the new year is approaching I feel as though I need to vent out just a little bit.. So hang in there with me as the thoughts start coming out.

This year has been one of the toughest for me. I have over come some obstacles in which I thought I would never have to face. Being the strong woman that I am, I pulled through. That doesn't mean I wasn't affected though. For those who know me, it's been a trying year and as the ending approaches.. I find myself having to overcome the un-imaginable.

I hate to sound like I'm wallowing in self pity.. Or as though I'm not grateful for the beautiful things I do have.. Because I am truly blessed as well as grateful.. I'm just a tiny bit bitter that's all. I'm allowed.

I'm a firm believer that everything we go through is because somewhere out there.. Someone believed we can handle it. With that said.. I know every trying time I have faced has made me stronger and wiser, and for that I am a little at peace.

Lastly, I have finally come to terms with the fact that I am all I have. This year has opened my eyes to many things, both enlightening and disappointing. Through everything.. I stood alone and that's ok with me now.. Because no one is going to love me like I love myself. Honestly.. That's all I need..

Me.. Myself & I

The Checklist: Is she a true friend?

Yesss!!! I'm back people! I told you I had one in the making.. lol



Females, for some reason, always seem to have issues when it comes to maintianing a healthy relationship with the same sex. No I do not mean Lesbians Boys.. lets keep it clean! thanks! I mean friendships. Females, in my opinion, tend to be very catty, emotional, easily manipulated, and my favorite JEALOUS. So here is a check list in which you can use to determine.. Is she a true friend.. Or is this b*tch trying to poison my Rum & Coke.. lol Enjoy!



You Know She's A True Friend When..

1. No matter what is going on in her world.. she always has that 5 min. call during her lunch break with your name on it!


2. She remembers the small things like your birthday, or the day you broke up with your first love.


3. When your sick, shes not worried about catching your cold. Instead she hops right in the bed with tissues.. soup.. and the latest hopeless romantic DVD rental.


4. If your swimming in the pity pool, she's always going to be the first to remind you that it can always be worse.. and that maybe you should be dwelling on what you're grateful for.


5. Lastly, no matter what issues the friendship faces... you always find a way to talk it out. Some things just arent worth losing a friend over. Example: Boys

You Know She's Not A True Friend When...

1. Anytime you call her to speak about something thats important to you, the convo quickly becomes about her.


2. If every comment is.. "I dont like that" or " You should do this" shes not trying to look out for your best interest.. shes trying to control what she dont have.


3. If she tends to call you to do her dirty work, shes not looking for her homegirl to help her out, shes looking for someone to blame when the shit hits the fan.


4. Lastly, if a boy gets involved in the friendship.. there wasnt really ever a friendship. There is no room for a boyfriend when it comes to bff's. Keep the 2 seperate. Believe me.

This Check List was more on the serious tip. But it's the truth. I dont know how many friends I have lost throughout the years over stupidity. It's just not right.

Keep the lines of communication open, and you should be good. =)

via Email

As you know, I have my aim/email accounts on my profile for those who would like to send in some of their own thoughts and judgements.

Frankly, I am happy to state that i received my first "I Hate Your Blog" letter via email. lol

Here's a little snippet of the love/hate letter.. Enjoy!

".. I just don't get you. Why do you write about things you know nothing about. Your man don't like you, no one does. Let go of the blogging and worry about what your boyfriend is doing on his spare time.."

That's just a little taste. LOL

Thanks to my emailer.. I spent my day smiling. As I stated before.. everyone in entitled to an opinion of course. But geeze Hun.. If this blog is not your type of tempo there are so many others you can be reading. Maybe you like Tiffany & Co's outlook on life more than you think.. After all.. you visit me quite often! lol

Who ever you are.. I appreciate you & your opinion. Keep the emails coming love! =)~

I am who I am

I have been so lucky to love the people who I hold close to my heart. Whether it be friends.. family.. or a boyfriend who can't get it together (lol) I have truly been blessed.
I am aware that many people may or may not feel a certain way about me. I want to address this issue head on.
I am who I am.. and at the end of the day.. as long as I am true to myself, that's all that matters. I have to live my life as I see fit. I make the choices.. I make the mistakes.. and I live with them. Whether they are right or wrong.. I live with it.. no one else.
So please.. before you pass judgement on me and/or any others, be sure that you are content with the life you're living. Be sure that when you look in the mirror every morning, you are pleased with the person looking right back at you because the one person you can not lie to is yourself.